As we all know that I am at my phase of dating and this is something I
am not used to. I am used to being in a relationship with one MAN therefore I
had to do some research on just dating nje and not catching feelings....
During my research I bumbed into this article and I thought I should
share it with you Trolls (read Grandee) hhahah ngyadlala
Now what? You had a fun night being in various
stages of undress together. So, that means you’re dating, right? Nope, not at
all.
The truth is you just had sex, that’s it. No
one is just going to sleep with you and think, “Wow, this is the person. I want
to introduce to my mother.” Keep your cool, have no expectations and have fun!
For all those times of uncertainty, follow this list of things you
shouldn’t do after sleeping with someone. Can you count how many mistakes
you’ve made?
- Assuming you’re sleeping over. It takes a big assh*le to kick someone out after a night of drinking, especially if you live across town. Just don’t assume; wait for the invite.
- Only getting water for yourself and not your hookup
- Lingering in the morning. Get out before you’re kicked out.
- Using your hookup’s toothbrush
- Saying, “That was better than I thought.”
- Not cuddling
- Trying to cuddle
- Going home wearing your hookup’s clothing. Guys must lose so many shirts this way.
- Texting too much
- Not answering texts. I don’t care who you are; everyone is attached to his or her phone. If you’re not down, just say, “not tonight.” It’s more respectful than not responding at all.
- Getting drunk and sharing your feelings
- Asking what your hookup wants and then crying
- Not being ready to bang again
- Being clingy
- Trying to steal your hookup’s underwear
- Fishing for your hookup’s real name
- Not going down on your hookup once you’ve had sex
- Not kissing your hookup after going down on him or her
- Crying or laughing only for minutes at a time. Either behavior is equally as bad as the other.
- Showing up at your hookup’s apartment without notice
- Stealing your hookup’s roommate’s shampoo
- Acting really weird the next time you see him or her
- Falling for your hookup
- Telling everyone you know about your night. Can it just be a secret and stay between the two of you? Secrets can be fun.
- Showing up at your hookup’s job
- Friending your hookup on Facebook
- Making yourself out to seem in love
- Trying to kiss your hookup in public
- Inviting him or her to a wedding
- Giving your hookup all the power. You’re having sex, too; think about your needs first.
Now, don’t get me wrong; I know plenty of people who got into
relationships after having sex, but that’s not the case for everyone.
Oftentimes, sex is just sex.
I know I personally have wasted so much time hoping a one-night stand
would turn into something more. The best advice after a hookup is just to have
no expectations. You can’t get hurt if you don’t expect anything.
Everything after sex is a bonus. Let the connection run its course and
have fun while doing it!
By Ntombenhle
