Anger , Revenge or Plain Criminal

After a teenager was shot dead and his friend wounded in Snake Park by a Pakistani national for allegedly  stealing from his shop, an unrest has erupted. Local residents are up in arms and it has spread throughout a number of Soweto residential areas. Pakistan nationals' shops based in Snake Park, Meadowlands, Zola, Mzimhlophe and Dobsonville are being looted. Merchandise is being stolen, shops broken into and trashed. However, the owners are not being harmed, just that the people are helping themselves to the shops' merchandise without paying a dime while the shop owners look on from a distance in disbelief.

I struggle to match the actions of the community to the crime committed by the shop owner in shooting at the teens. I am trying to come to a conclusion as to how the looting compensates the killing of the teen. I have looked at a few angles to try justify why the response to the shooting is what it is:

Anger

-The residents are so angry with the shop owner that they have decided to drive him away from the community  by looting his shop. Fair, but how does this then include all other Pakistani owned shops? Why not just drive him and leave the goods alone?

Revenge
-The residents were so angry and wanted to avenge the shop owner's actions by taking away the only thing they view as equally important to him as a life of the teen was to them, so they took his stock. Again, how does this become about all Pakistani national's shops?

Criminal

- Or, ladies and gentlemen, are the lootings a result of criminals waiting for opportunities to present themselves so that they can proceed with their crimes of taking from those trying to make an honest living? I was stunned to see a granny amidst the looters taking part in the "grabbing" of the shop stocks. How was what she was doing; helping herself to stuff that doesn't belong to her; justifying her protest against the teen's shooting?

The aftermath

Gogo dunising and helping herself

A gathering nearby before the looting began

Written by QueenTroll

Own your feelings!

Growing up my biggest fear was to disappoint the one who believed me, my mother… She encouraged me to be me, make mistakes, fail, explore life, and still she never gave up on me, she kept encouraging me. In return, I made sure I do best, to make her proud, to keep her smiling…. Her smile brought happiness to me more than being popular, being like everyone else around me. Our relationship is like any other, but at the end we all want to see each other smile and be happy. My friends lived in what seemed to be a military household, and when finally stole that moment of happiness, they did not know how to handle it. They did not know how to handle failure, how to handle their mistakes, in return accepting life as is extremely hard and frustrating. So they keep trying to change people in their lives, themselves just to feel like they are in control. YOU CANT CONTROL ANOTHER HUMAN BEING who makes mistakes just like you do. But you can control how you feel and react to situations.

Where am I going with this? Why do we feel the need to be different with the partners we chose in our lives? We blame social networks for our failed relationships. We blame other people for our INSECURITIES because ours are deeper. It is not them. It is how we treat the people we call our partners. Do we encourage them to be better people? Or do we discourage them for not being perfect as we picture them in our minds?

How is a person supposed to improve themselves within the relationship if the person they are with does not believe in them? How will they put a smile on your face constantly if everything they do will be scrutinized and will be put down by your words?

If your goal is to make someone happy, do that. You are not doing it for them, but yourself. As people we treat each other how the other treats us. We want to be the best for the person who believes in us and they in return will reciprocate.

“Thoughts of doubt, fear, worry, doom and gloom, focusing on what could go wrong is a clear sign of negative thinking. When your mind is filled with negative thoughts you end up attracting more of what you don't want.”

Let go of all things that don’t serve you well… Be free, and allow the next to do the same…

If you guys did not hate essays, I would have gone deeper… So rather I keep it high level….

 Written by Lufuno

Female Sexual Liberation

I think bloggers have touched on this topic a bit but I felt that we should flash it out and discuss it in more detail because it’s one topic that is very close to my heart. I feel strongly about s*xual liberation especially where females are concerned, I think that it’s very hard for us females to be liberated where s*x is concerned openly. Woman are judged for loving s*x too much, for wanting to be adventurous and trying different things in the bedroom, basically we are judged for  wanting s*xual satisfaction from our partners which should be a standard thing.

Female s*xual oppression has got us chained, we focus a lot on not wanting to be judged for being sexual beings. We worry about our body count because we are told that after a certain number we are considered damaged goods and we are told that no good guy would want to marry us anymore.

Then there are these selfish guys who judge us for wanting more in the bedroom, they look down on us if we initiate s*x instead of waiting for them. They secretly label us sl*ts for wanting them to pleasure us and asking them to try out new things in bed. I remember I once had this huge fight with my Ex over s*x, the guy started calling me a horny sl*t because I specifically called him up that night for s*x and immediately left after the dance. I was livid ………….. I mean who the hell is he, standing proud and judging me for wanting s*x just because I am woman. Long story short …………. that relationship ended there and then.

I've also realized that it’s not just men who judge us or look down at us for having a high body count, other woman do that too. It’s sad to see females judging each other and saying nasty things about each other just because you've slept with John, Paul and Peter in a period of three months. We call each other ‘village bicycles ‘, ‘complex wh*res’ and ‘office escort’ without knowing why a person went from Peter to Paul and yet we will never dare call a guy names for sleeping around.

Personally I’m tired of being s*xually oppressed, I’m tired of being judged for wanting s*xual satisfaction from my partner. I will not tolerate being called a whore just because I refuse to stick around for bad s*x in fear of increasing my body count. I say females should own their bodies and do as they please with them. I say we should embrace our sexual liberation and own it!

Written by a S*xually Liberated Blogger :-)

Kelly Khumalo The Singer

After all is said and done, the drama rama mama surrounding Kelly Khumalo we will be left with Kelly Khumalo The Singer, one of the most talented vocalists in SA with Best female artist Award to prove it. It is that time of the year, our artists will be nice to us, we shall be begged fam to go and buy their stuff,we will be getting follow backs and they shall be Retweeting everyone who bought their stuff. Woe unto you who are following a number of artists on tweeter! Your TLs will be boring AF with those retweets, that's me exaggerating! 

Where were we... So we are at the hotel reception area and BAE ask me how much did I spend kwiCredit card yakh... Wait! That's not the story I was telling. Kelly Khumalo has a new album out in stores titled Back to My Roots , I know that sounds like a paid line but nope,she didn't pay, its at least We could do for uSisi after yonke laDrama marn! (Who is We? Us! Who is us? We!). Saving you the awkward moment of listening to an album in store and leave without buying it, I have compiled a preview of the full album, in 10 minutes you get the taste of the full album and of cause my thoughts on each song! 

 Link here: http://t.co/YiDw0GQ5pG or search mzua_cares on soundcloud.

Written by Mzua

Disclaimer : Apologies for the delay , Mzua sent this to QT a long time go 

My weekend in a paragraph

I’m pretty sure no one had a weekend like mine. We went to visit the Queen like we discussed and I had to wait two hours for fellow bloggers to arrive so we may go see Queen Troll. They eventually arrived and we left. QT being her usual self ngokuphapa thought she could be strong enough and play hostess but the pains didn't allow her to be great kodwa she was still her usual self and full of nonsense more than ever.

Spending time with fellow bloggers was my highlight, I didn't know if our first official meet and greet was going to be awkward or not but I ended up having tons of fun. It was magical, we all clicked really well, we drank and we got twerking lessons. Unfortunately we had to say our goodbyes soon  cause as the saying goes “ time flies when you having fun“ but before we parted ways we decided that it was best to take a bunch of fun selfie’s for keep sake.

 In short I had an awesome weekend, how was yours?

PS : Thank you so much for all your contributions.

Written by Mama