Submission of an African wife.

"Chomi bathi I need to be submissive towards a guy, please ask the married people on the group ukuba where can I buy it"

 

This is a text I received from my girl who is a step into a very stable union. My friend, a modern woman. An executive who juggles running a successful events company, being a "pre" and keeping an active social life is obviously not familiar with submitting to anyone's demands nor needs.

 

What is it?

-Submission is seen as giving in or compromising some of your beliefs to accommodate the next person or for the sake of peace. However, in most relationships it is a norm for a woman to be expected to be the submissive part.

 

When is it okay and when is it not?

- Well, I will tell you what, to me, It is never okay. In my previous experiences, I find it is better to meet common ground as partners instead of "submitting". It never worked for me, except I have found the other person will keep pushing boundaries to see how far they can get with having what they wanna see happen take place. But then again, I like kissing frogs soooo

 

But of course, I am the last person to attempt giving relationship advise. So I ask you; married, pre's and the rest; where can my girl buy this submission from?

By Queen Troll

Whats in a name?

The power of a name and its value has long been immortalized in prose, poetry, and religious ceremony. Everyone recognizes himself or herself by name.

The other day I was a Primi for their Salmone pasta!! Our waiters name was Shepherd... The other who took over after Sherperd left, was Obvious... They are both from Zimbabwe... It got me thinking, most of us born in the 80's have English names, which I call Slave names... All my life, my mother made me use my English name, and when I went to Varsity, I made a decision to never ever use it again, And I didnt for 4 years until I started working again, when the white people started using it again... SIGH...

I know people called, Trust, Signature, Believe, Remember, Goodness, Pretty the list goes on...

Most of the Vernec names I know are either positive or damn right negative... Our parents would give a child name depending on a situation at that moment they were born...

What does your name mean?
Those with English names, are you proud of it?
Would you give your child an English name?
Does A name have to have a meaning behind it??
Do you believe a Name hold power over a person?

By Lufuno

Do you want a second date???

As I was watching BMJ season two episode twelve, one part struck me. She was seeing this guy, Sheldon, after a while when she thought it was promising, and saw her forever wiith him, she finds out he does not want to get married, cohabit and have kids, and that is ALL she wanted in life... 

She then went on and said something very profound; " if a  woman asked a man questions like, do you want children, do you want to get married on the first date, she is called crazy, and when she is called crazy, she cant get to the second date so she can prove that she is not crazy and desparate. So we dance round and round over real issues we hold close"

Do we comprise alot for a second date and wait until its too late to breakfree  without a makor heartbreak?

What lengths would you go to, to keep a man?

Is it that hard to share our views first time round, and take whatever comes after that?

Its tough being woman man!

Share your views...

By Lufuno

New TV show review: The Afternoon Express

FOMO had me. Everyone has been talking about the upcoming "new talk" show. Hosted by Top Billing's Bonang Matheba with Jennie D and Bonnie Mbuli co- (insert word for top decorated runner). The show has taken over 3Talk's time slot and was said to be what "we were never ready" for, until it aired. 

 

5minutes before 4 O'clock. I was sitting there with a glass of water, coffee and dombolo at hand. I had also emptied my bladder for nothing was gonna make me get off the couch and miss this long awaited, much talked about, never before seen on South African TV to air. I even had my phone on silent because the queen was about to be on air and all subjects were to just swerve. 

 

So, they showed the "coming up" menu. Well, I thought this will be interesting. It looked like they were introducing who will be doing what for future shows, kanti dolol's. It was all to be bundled into a 60 minute show. There were 3 celebrity interviews, 2 recipe showcases, a vet, a fashion show, an exercise routine and a performance. All in one show. I felt like I was watching a repeat of Expresso. Of course Bonang did the celebrity interviews while the 2 other girls were in charge of the space / time filler inserts. It was a well organized calm chaos. Too many things at once and I did not get the "talk show" part of it.

 

My thought: they could just format the show in a way that they focus on 2 or 3; maximum; topics instead of doing everything all at once. It's like they were trying to add The Link, Top Billing, Expresso and IG all in one show. All those models in the show? It looked like their target market are 16 year old high school kids, honestly, who's produced that episode?

- Bonnie Mbuli can do more than talk about pork chops and chop broccoli, she needs a chance to shine, I see a gem.

- Was it me or was the voice over also by the guy who does all the SABC 3 programming voice overs? Can we see/ hear new talent?

 

Of course chances of me catching the show soon are very slim, I am over it already. I will watch expresso in the morning and carry on with the rest of the day.

 

Nothing new here. Well thought of but the content is too much of an over kill. Also, there is a danger of allowing B* to over shadow the other presenters.

 

What did you think?

 

By Queen Troll

May day weekend round up...

Mayday Weekend round up

 

Welcome back to a new month. Oh what a hectic weekend I had trying to be social and study all at once. I hope I don't regret this on Tuesday when exam time gets here.

 

It started off on Thursday. I met Esihle for drinks but instead of going to a restaurant, we ended up at her house after what seemed like hours of convoy from Jozi to The West (who willingly stays in the West? Urgh, these people). I felt kidnapped and played by that damn midget. Anywho, it turned out better than I expected because later on we were joined by our one friend; sans he usual twang that she has when we are in public and she's wearing crops; who made being indoors on a weekend night more bearable. I studied Friday. Ran some grownup errands on Saturday before going to a compulsory Big5 get together. And, true to me nature, I arrived hours late just to give everyone time to break the ice and catch up because I was there for the alcohol and desert. Finally left around midnight, got home and tried to wait up for the PacWeather fight, lol! I caught up with some studies on Sunday. Nkosi, I am over this qualification now. It must fall already.

 

Sunday TV:

- I caught the fight repeat PacWeather on Supersport around 8am. What a bore, such a yawn. It was not worth it. All that was left was for them to pull each other's weaves off, worse than a chick's fight. 

- later on I watched Hotplate. I still need someone to tell me what the plot of this show is. I mean, I almost understand Mmankomo's journey into the catering business. But Jag lady? What's her role, to khotha about her money or..... And the gogo's, what's going on there?

- Diski Divas, I mean the Nonhle Ndala show was such a one woman try-too-hard-to-be-the-it show. Nonhle didn't fail to piss everyone off, AGAIN. I was not ready for her to say Kat didn't date Jimmy Tau but followed him around and stalked him; in a taxi. Hello. Doesn't she drive someone else's car? Where's hers? Why does it make her mad? Is she his mother? Why is she such an angry person? Lol, someone called her a car guard on twirra.

- LBMzansi: lol, some guy used his parents to charm a lady but it looks like after she realized he's deadbeat she slyza'd. Shem, from the get go, she was slippery and when they finally got her to pay attention and brought out the guy to confess his need to have her back she was livid. Wanting to tell all about his "laundry" if they didn't stop filming. She then asked that a friend bring her car so she can GTFO there. Me? I think sister girl has a new person and ain't about this dude's steez no more. #GetThatMoneyToGetThatHoney

- OPW: It was an affirmative action wedding, #NoToXenophobia #LetForeignersMarryInSA. The groom hails from DRC and the bride a Zim gem. They also told us their soccer ages. The bride's family asked for 150k lobola. I think their wedding lacked a certain something maaaaan, can't put my fingers on it but hay too flat. The bride's maid was running everything. From choosing the cake, the dress and the bride's ring, even the makeup. The bride took risks shem.... She didn't own her wedding day's activities except for being more than 2hrs late. Yerrrr Pinky mara.

 

Anyway that's all I could fit in before heading back to my books. I am on study leave until Wednesday so hope all is well with you trolls.

 

By Queen Troll