Growing
up my biggest fear was to disappoint the one who believed me, my mother… She
encouraged me to be me, make mistakes, fail, explore life, and still she never
gave up on me, she kept encouraging me. In return, I made sure I do best, to
make her proud, to keep her smiling…. Her smile brought happiness to me more
than being popular, being like everyone else around me. Our relationship is
like any other, but at the end we all want to see each other smile and be
happy. My friends lived in what seemed to be a military household, and when
finally stole that moment of happiness, they did not know how to handle it.
They did not know how to handle failure, how to handle their mistakes, in
return accepting life as is extremely hard and frustrating. So they keep trying
to change people in their lives, themselves just to feel like they are in
control. YOU CANT CONTROL ANOTHER HUMAN BEING who makes mistakes just like you
do. But you can control how you feel and react to situations.
Where
am I going with this? Why do we feel the need to be different with the partners
we chose in our lives? We blame social networks for our failed relationships.
We blame other people for our INSECURITIES because ours are deeper. It is not
them. It is how we treat the people we call our partners. Do we encourage them
to be better people? Or do we discourage them for not being perfect as we
picture them in our minds?
How is
a person supposed to improve themselves within the relationship if the person
they are with does not believe in them? How will they put a smile on your face
constantly if everything they do will be scrutinized and will be put down by
your words?
If your
goal is to make someone happy, do that. You are not doing it for them, but
yourself. As people we treat each other how the other treats us. We want to be
the best for the person who believes in us and they in return will reciprocate.
“Thoughts of doubt, fear, worry, doom and gloom, focusing
on what could go wrong is a clear sign of negative thinking.
When your mind is filled with negative thoughts you end up attracting more of what you
don't want.”
Let go of all things that don’t serve you well… Be free,
and allow the next to do the same…
If you guys did not hate essays, I would have gone
deeper… So rather I keep it high level….
Written by Lufuno
