When is it disrespect....

So many time we feel we are disrespected by people around us. Be it family, friends, lovers, colleagues, service provider or even our children. But where do we draw the line where we too are not enabling it or doing the same toward a person close to us? There is a thin line between feeling disrespected and being selfish, rude or not understanding.

Definition: acting rude, impolite, and offensive.

We all find something important to us, and wish people around us could understand and treat us with courtesy and sensitivity. This making disrespect relative and unique to every individual.

Selfishness can form a huge role to a person being disrespectful to others. You will never understand a persons emotional and personality once you are selfish, therefore you will be selfish in your interaction with them, which may come across as rude and disrespectful toward them.

We often talk about the tone on the blog, and it plays a huge role in showing respect. The tone in your writing, your voice and the way you convey a message should be in a way that does not offend the next person. 

Disrespect is necessary and inevitable, rather than holding the double standard whereby your disrespect is just enlightened, and other people’s is simply sinful. We’re born judgmental, approving and  disrespectful at everything bitter. But some of what’s bitter, turns out to be better than it tastes, so we should get beyond condemning everything that doesn’t immediately appeal to us. We need to learn to put ourselves in the shoes of the next person before we project our views, and learn to do so in a way that does not belittle the other.

Well, well, well...

"Don’t fight with a pig, you’ll just get dirty and the pig likes it,” is a great reminder that if you can walk away, you should. Walking away from someone you disrespect is often the most respectful way to show your disrespect, not that it will necessarily be taken that way. Not all battles are worth your fight, because at the end of the day, you have not walked in their shoes and they yours.

With this said, I came across this, "When you humor people, you’re disrespectfully treating them as incapable of handling your disrespect.  When you convey your disrespect, you’re honoring their capacity to live and learn from feedback. Saying or not saying what you think can be taken as both disrespectful and respectful, as is evident in the way people put us in a double bind demanding that we respect them by being honest with them, and yet also demanding that we respect them by being diplomatic with them.  Respect their ambivalence and face into the tough judgment call we all have to make, truth or care, should you speak your truth or just express care by shutting up."

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The moment you fail to acknowledge the other persons feelings and position, you are being selfish and disrespectful. Always find a way to get your point across without disrespecting the person you are engaging with by putting yourself in their shoes. - By me

• Do to others as you would have them do to you. Luke 6:31

• So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets. Matthew 7:12

By Lufuno 
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