He works your psych,
To control your sight…
He manipulates your mind
To manage your decision making…
He uses his ruthless words
To instil fear,
To make you crumble to his feet.
You are worthless, weak, useless, good for nothing, a whore and all nasty negative word he uses
All you want to do, is be good for him. Because no one else will want your worthless bum
The useless MF…
You know you NEED to leave, but where to? How? When? Because
I will go back… I am useless remember, I am worthless… Who will want me? Will
my friends and family take me back?
Friends are tired of your drama, so you keep quite? You
surfer alone… Your soul is dead.
Stop telling me to leave, tell me how to leave… KIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIICK
Bruises….. broken limbs…. Missing teeth… Broken soul…
An abuser does not just wake up and start beating you up. A
coward does that… An abuser is slick, he smart, as a matter of fact, he is a
genius (Dj Khaled voice).
Where am I going with this?
NEVER TELL A WOMAN IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP TO JUST LEAVE.
What do you tell her?? How do you help her? How do you
ensure she never goes back?When I got out of my abusive relationship, I came up with his phrase, “Solution is better than Command”, to replace, “it’s easier said than done”.
Action Plan; (Googled solutions by Dr Phil, Link below)
- Know
the phone number to your local battered women's shelter.
- Let
a trusted family member, friend, co-worker or neighbours know your
situation. Develop a plan for when you need help; code words you can
text if in trouble, a visual signal like a porch light: on equals no
danger, off equal’s trouble.
- Keep
a journal of all violent incidences, noting dates, events and threats made.
- Keep
any evidence of physical abuse, such as pictures.
- Hide
an extra set of car keys.
- Set
money aside. Ask friends or family members to hold money for you.
- Pack
a bag. Include an extra set of keys, IDs, car title, birth certificates,
social security cards, credit cards, marriage license, clothes for
yourself and your children, shoes, medications, banking information, money
“anything that is important to you. Store them at a trusted friend or
neighbour’s house. Try to avoid using the homes of next-door neighbours,
close family members and mutual friends.
- Take
important phone numbers of friends, relatives, doctors, schools,
etc.
After Leaving the
Abusive Relationship
If you get a
restraining order, and the offender is leaving:
- Change
your locks and phone number.
- Change
your work hours and route taken to work.
- Change
the route taken to transport children to school.
- Keep
a certified copy of your restraining order with you at all times.
- Inform
friends, neighbors and employers that you have a restraining order in
effect.
- Give
copies of the restraining order to employers, neighbors and schools along
with a picture of the offender.
- Call
law enforcement to enforce the order.
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